Infinity time loop

How often we watch sci fi dramas on infiinity time loop. they get to restart their life day after day just to find the best outcome in life. Some get killed many times and trying to stay alive and some finding ways to end the time loop. 

And then, one day i wake up, i realise we are actually in the similar time loop day after day actually with small variances through our lives. we wake up go to work, eat lunch, work, come home eat dinner, sleep. taking care of all the responsibilities of family, kids, parents, housing, car, and other commitments. 

After 15 years of working life, though the jobscope is different, practically it sums up to the same routine. 

These days as i am unemployed, i am equally trapped in the time loop, waking up trying to think what to do for the day, thinking how to find ways to make money, how to get out of the sticky situation i am in now. not sure i will even survive if this continues on. on kids, trying to ensure all on their right education paths, doing what they need to do. 

and viola, i am in infinity time loop. 

while sitting in a coffeeshop, looking at the people around, everyone are stuck in the similar time loop, which is making money, trying to make ends meet, everyone be it mid or top management all have stress and responsibilities. it sets me thinking is this really life. just to find answers for all stress and responsibilites to ensure things gets better as we move along in life. 

Some make great success while some fails. but all are stuck in the time loop just that we do get old before we are discarded by the workforce and society.

Very negative post, but do think what you want to do in life. dont waste your time away. but if you really dont know what you want to do in life. Congratulations, you have a lot of extra time compared to what some who always do not have enough time. 

Education = the ultimate dilemma on how parents should do to ensure future safety net

As a singaporean, since young we are faced wth a very structured education system, and cross path at 12 years old to dictate the path and secondary school we are going which very much has decided the future path for you. 

As parents, children education is upmost important,  instead  of saying our expectations it is actually our fears that children may not be able to receive a good environment for education, unable to compete with others and eventually lack of choices when they are in the society. 

While gov has made changes to the system, like mixing students of different grades in neighbourhood schools, and reassuring parents grades are not everything. it did not remove the fact that grades are still the fundamental selection for schools, for subject streaming, for future secondary, JC, Poly, ITE and eventually University, which determine the future career paths that they can be in. That is the only benchmark you can have to dictate the ability of the person. 

Of course one will say that they can specialise in something else. Thats provided that his speciality is able to safeguard his future. which what most people say, born to do this. but most people dont have such specialty then what can we do? 

As parents we all understand, grades alone do not suggest good future as the economy plays an important factor. What we merely want is just to ensure our children do their best to ensure that their future has more options. 

So Best of luck to all parents trying their best to ensure the success of their kids, and balance between stress and happiness and childhood experience. 

New Perspective on happiness

 Previously i have put a blog on happiness, what is happiness and intrinsic or extrinsic.

Suddenly i have a new perspective of happiness. 

I will split it in to 3 levels. 

First level - social and psychological happiness. 

Look at children, they can be so happy and no worries as they are socially and psychologically secured. they do not need to pay for food, clothes, transport or accomodation. it is so easy for them to be happy as they do not need to worry if they are able to pay for it as to them till they grow up, this is an abundant asset. So i classified first level of happiness as financial freedom - no need to worry for your expenses.

Second level - Extrinsic happiness

As an adult, being able to purchase neeeds and wants gives spurts of extrinsic happiness. gives you temporary off the mind of the burden and issues you face on Level 1. you probably felt really good to be able to buy your favourite watch, getting a good deal for something you always wanted, going on a holiday, laughing at comedy and videos. these are temporary as the most fundamental happiness is yet to be met .

Third level - intrinsic happiness

this is the hardest to achieve (similar to esteem and self actualisation needs in maslow hierachy). and this has the longest effect. meaning you probably have spouts of unhappiness like a child than having spouts of happiness like an adult. Level 1 will probably be fulfilled, means you do not really have to worry about responsibilities and living paycheck to paycheck. you will experience addtional happiness when you go on your trips and probably shopping as well. while you are seeking something more satisfying, something out of your control. Eg, Praises, gifts, recognitions. internally, probably you get to do something you have never done and get a sense of satisfaction. these are way and above. 

These 3 category can happen randomly without the need to fulfil each level. while the frequency increaseif you manage to satisfy the fundamental level. thats why children can be easily satisfied and be happy while adults, being independent, need to worry on the full spectrum of life. 

While i have fulfilled level 1 in the near term, level 3 has been haunting me that makes it hard to be happy due to uncertainty and overthinking. but then thats what Adults are wired, as we plan for future needs and emergency. 

Till then hope everyone can be happy.