Relationship comes with proximity

When you are in an relationship, isnt it the same as going to buy grocery? will you always travel to Jurong IMM to purchase your grocery when you stay in Pasir Ris? So i start this blog on Relationship comes with proximity. It seems that proximity is seriously important in whereever we are. Maybe it is just instinct that we are born lazy, as we follow the shortest route and time. So What got it to do with relationship.

By statistic from your friends, how often does Long Distance Relationship (LDR) successful? Staying online all day to hope that you can see her? Hogging on the phone just to find that part of your salary goes to Singtel? Soon enough one will be tired and when especially you are down, the only one who are there to support you are your friends, not the one you love. So proximity seems to be seriously important in a relationship. Well thats LDR.

What about when east meets the west? how long can you take it to travel 1 hour up and 1 hour down everyday, 7 days a week and 365 days a year. Thats is 730 hours a year and full 30 days in total gone in travelling just to meet your love. can you take it? From your friends, how many succeed in enduring such travelling hours? and how many actually succeed? will they start to look for someone nearer or when they are free, will they meet up with people nearer to them or are they going to spend quality time with the bus driver? So the next alternative buy a car. So it becomes 20mins up and 20mins down everyday, 7 days a week and 365 days a year. And so time spend on the road becomes 240hours a year and 10 full days travelling. Well thats a great reduction and so you can sustain longer.

But comes the wonderful part of salary gone to MOBIL, where we are drivers too. So we drive, we spend and you find that monthly car bills goes up to $250 a month and service more frequently than ever and soon, other dreams you wish to fulfil has been used to fuel your love. So is it worth it? Yes it is, depends on the time spend together and the things to do together. But The stress is there. Just think that you are suddenly uptight with your workload and you have a deadline to meet, and your pocket suddenly becomes shallower than ever, what will happen???

SO ONLY THE FITTEST WINS THE RACE, SO NO MONEY NO HONEY, AND GOT HONEY, YOU SURE LOSE MONEY.

Friends forever?

As we always say friends forever, is it really true? after years of no show and no meet up, are we still friends or just pure acquaintance? Is the memory we have for each other the same or faded? Has the priority and your position in each other's heart changed?

Being friends forever, i believe need commitment forever, not just say and no action, keeping in touch is the first step of being friends, and meeting and gathering with each other makes the relationship more steady. As people change, mindset change, your perception of your friend will change, so being friends, we are always changing and adapting to each other's idea and mindset. So have you changed or your friend changed?

Just a short blog, a lesson to all. Make a count of your friends, who is really your friend who cares and concern about you and always by your side, and who is just a friend who you merely knows by name?

Hope you get to find friends who are bosom friends and buddies, who shares your happiness and woes, who care for you deep down in their heart.

Predestined?

Is Life predestined? Is whatever you do is preplanned? Do you go for fortune telling and see whats happening in the future? so Whats Life? As we keep trying and trying. do we really get what we want? or is just that our goals are too hard to achieve?

As we strive hard to win, will we win? will we succeed? can we be playing a game when there is no winner? Was watchin Rambo, the old slyvester stallone show, winning is never possible and it seems a huge struggle just to be in the game. Life is the same, we now are also struggling to keep ourselves in the working force, earn some income and never grow rich. Why? coz the system has set that winning is never possible. Am i pessimistic? but if its possible and everyone wins, who going to do the shit job?

And many people lives the life in hardship. do they choose it? or are they stupid? I would say "NO". Its just hard to win and impossible as the game forbids winning. And there is no alternative to that, so stay poor and struggle to be in the game.

So whats life? is it really predestined? as we move from primary industry to secondary industry, as everyone moves from poverty to rich, who will be our maid, who will serve us and who will be under us? So is it predestined? How many loopholes are there for people to find to grow rich?

LIFE IS A MYSTERY, YESTERDAY IS THE PAST, TOMORROW IS THE FUTURE, AND NOW IS REALITY

No Improvement means deterioration?

As we do not continue our study and search for new information and insights to news and technology or the things around us, are we becoming lousier, deproving and more useless? For those who have worked for a few years and has the reluctancy to change, do you feel that you getting out of touch with many things around us? Like Softwares, handphones, the people, the mindsets. Seems that the society start to move faster and faster, trying to outwin every other countries to become the best, making things change rapidly and soon enough you dont even recognise Singapore as your hometown as the blueprint itself have changed.

The thing behind this blog is, can we really settle down and relax, not be bothered by the things around us and be in our own world? I really like to, i have tried it and till date its almost a year, It really seems that things has changed so much and the world is no longer what you perceived to be. And though you may be intelligent a year ago, it now seems that you are stupid, cant use a simple handphone, or your new software in your laptop. So does it really happening, no improvement means deterioration? if it really does, it only means that as we try to gain more knowledge and becoming better, we are actually indifferent from our peers around us. It just like playing games, competing with your peers, as you increase in strengths and power, your peers as well, you still dont get absolute power over them. So in all we are still the same.

So does improvement means getting better or just staying on the spot?

Power of Adaptation, self sufficient

Have you ever wonder how can someone live in really poor condition and live with $3 a day? And how the rich can spent tens of thousands a day in shopping? Thats the power of adaptation. Human beings has the power to adapt to the lifestyle that they are in and becomes part of their life, though we dont change our colours like chameleon, but are able to suit in sudden different environment rapidly. Eg, Does your accent changes when you go to a foreign country and try to speak like a local? When we are stranded in a jungle, will we have the ability to adapt and get out of the jungle? And thats the power of adaption.

The meaning self sufficient, there is no point to be rich, as you will adapt to spend like a rich and you are significantly indifferent. People buys a normal handbag and you buys a LV, technically speaking you are both happy, as you have a bag. So self sufficient is important in order to be happy about your current lifestyle. If you earn 10k a month, you buys a BMW, while someone earns 3k a month and buys a Mazda, is the rich spending a lot more for the basic need of travel? though he does feel better but overall they are indifferent as both has the transport.

So why worry about everything when you have everything? Lets enjoy our lifes and enjoy being who you are. It is important to be happy, to have friends companion and the luxury of your family support.

To end with a twist, Life's short enjoy while you can. And Life's long when you are always in misery.

Disclaimer: i am not trying to demotivate you in your career path but do stop to enjoy to appreciate the things around you and the things you have.

The power of Waiting

Waiting, is so boring and tedious. Wasting time and effort. but the power of waiting there. Why?

Firstly, as you wait to get what you want, the time and effort taken increases, the more you will appreciate the thing that you waited for. Why? because you put in effort.

Secondly, whats more to be involved in the process than getting the product. sometimes, when we buy things we are just satisfying the want. how often you will play with the things that you buy for very long, most times you play a while, get used to it and forget about it. So with more involvement in the buying process and waiting process, will it eventually make the product more interesting? like doing more research and all..

Lastly, wait let you think what you really want. Let you think what is really in for you and since waiting is such a cool process, lets wait while we slowly moves towards the goal.

All above are nonsense to what i wanted to say, what i want to say below is what i wanted to convey.

Assumption: you are someone with decent and stable income.

Have you ever wonder why the things that you want to buy always dont come and as time pass you felt that you already have it. Like you wanted a house, you waited for 10 years and finally you got your house. Like you wanted a car, you strive hard and within 2 years you got a car. All these has timeline and all about waiting. Our goals on expenses are always things that we cant really afford on our current timeframe, but as time goes as your savings increase you start to feel that you can afford it. so thats the power of wait.

The Law of attraction always seems to describe that as your mind power set to do it and have a goal you will eventually get it. But Jacer's law of waiting is no matter what you want as long as you strive hard and wait long enough, your saving will get you there. So just be where you are, and soon you will be able to purchase your dream flat or car.

LAME but ITS True. So don get conned by MLM, Motivation talks, cause the end point about Law of Attraction is Still the The Power of Wait. You still need time to get to it.