Lifes hard in Singapore or i would say everywhere, unless u are someone with silver spoon. Getting a house seems even harder when the days go by. Yet, there has been constant buzzing from everyone around to ask me to buy house. So what can i do? Am i up to it? With pricing so high, it also dont seems a good choice to get a house.
Still trying to think if i should just get a job or start a business or help my mom? no one can give me an answer. Lately with powerful winds and rains, my legs are giving way. yet no one knows. so i dont know how long i can go on before something big coming. So here comes. Jacer has an unstable income, unstable family to cling to, and everyone expects him to work for practically free of charge. So how? Financial problem, physical and emotional stress. no one knows. even those who really know wont help.. so thats life.
As for the other half. someone who has not shown any capability to look after a house as yet and best still some thing big or i should say small is coming up and more stuff to look after. Then when these things happen, life seems even more bleak. Havent really seen her working out as a housewife and with a job on hand, a baby to handle. will a new household burden can sustain. so tell me what to do?
Friday, March 18, 2011
Saying Sorry...
Do you feel that as we get older, we feel more stubborn and will not say sorry for anything we do. And even if we are in the wrong, as best as possible we will try to let the news past without any actions. Even for family members, when one is wrong, it is still very hard for one to say sorry. WHY??? is it becuase of me or not?
It seems so hard to communicate. It seems so hard to breathe even to see your own father. Just feel like strangers. I seriously dont know if its norm for a family or just my family. Looking at my wife's family, everyone are harmonious, everyone are loving each other, conflicts resolved quickly and no offences. But in mine. Each mistake is death sentence. Or even if you dont do anything wrong you still seems to be in the wrong. So why is that so? why is life so hard?
So the end, we are strangers!
It seems so hard to communicate. It seems so hard to breathe even to see your own father. Just feel like strangers. I seriously dont know if its norm for a family or just my family. Looking at my wife's family, everyone are harmonious, everyone are loving each other, conflicts resolved quickly and no offences. But in mine. Each mistake is death sentence. Or even if you dont do anything wrong you still seems to be in the wrong. So why is that so? why is life so hard?
So the end, we are strangers!
Monday, March 14, 2011
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
Rather be single!!
Its been 3 months through my marriage with a baby on the way, but i still feel like being single. why? because i still love to sleep in a queen size bed just for myself. Enjoy the tranquility of sleep in the middle of the night and not have spoilt radio playing whole night long. Enjoy being myself and freedom for myself. Maybe the theories behind "Sex and the City" are true not only applies to the westerners but the easterners.
And the angry thing is the little bastard on the way. Everyone seems to be very happy for the baby and gives me tons of stress. Cannot do this cannot do that. Fine. no problem. Then everything start to change. The bastard extinguish all love that suppose to have for couples. That very bastard will haunt you for life. Should have follow the trend and not listen to gov. Shit!
So why dont we say single still better. Just like a gambler. At least you dont have to show hand. you still have chips on your side. still can place bid on other places. And so all casinos will welcome you. Once bankrupt. not only other casinos turn you down, but the one that you only visits turns you down too.
And the angry thing is the little bastard on the way. Everyone seems to be very happy for the baby and gives me tons of stress. Cannot do this cannot do that. Fine. no problem. Then everything start to change. The bastard extinguish all love that suppose to have for couples. That very bastard will haunt you for life. Should have follow the trend and not listen to gov. Shit!
So why dont we say single still better. Just like a gambler. At least you dont have to show hand. you still have chips on your side. still can place bid on other places. And so all casinos will welcome you. Once bankrupt. not only other casinos turn you down, but the one that you only visits turns you down too.
Monday, December 27, 2010
Look further?
Do you set goals and have expectations of yourself? do you look further in the future to see how you should move on? Many people feedback to me that at age of 28, everything seems good for you. You have a car, a wife and a kid coming. You have a flexible job with good income and nothing seems to be needed. But hey, look further, you guys are climbing up, while i am stagnant. You guys have bonus while i have pay cut. You guys report to one boss, everyone seems to be my boss. You all have stable job, while everyday i have to fight to get a stable income.
grass always seem greener on the other side. When u have a job, you feel like doing something else to have more time and money. And if you have time and money, u feel like having a job to be more stable. Life seems to be emcompassed with unwanted wants, creates frustration and problems because of these wants. I wan time, but no money, i wan money but no time. and with time and money, you wan more money. Why more money, because u need bigger house, bigger car, but is it needed?
Life seems more and more bleak for me, with many problems lurking. People ask if you like to continue swimming, some ask if its time to get a pay cut and start from square 1 and get a job. So what should i do? there is no perfect plan or easiest plan. but we are always living with limited resources, be it time or money, it is never enough.
So lets see. remember to view this blog 6 mths from now, so i know if i still the same old me. Or i have really moved on.
grass always seem greener on the other side. When u have a job, you feel like doing something else to have more time and money. And if you have time and money, u feel like having a job to be more stable. Life seems to be emcompassed with unwanted wants, creates frustration and problems because of these wants. I wan time, but no money, i wan money but no time. and with time and money, you wan more money. Why more money, because u need bigger house, bigger car, but is it needed?
Life seems more and more bleak for me, with many problems lurking. People ask if you like to continue swimming, some ask if its time to get a pay cut and start from square 1 and get a job. So what should i do? there is no perfect plan or easiest plan. but we are always living with limited resources, be it time or money, it is never enough.
So lets see. remember to view this blog 6 mths from now, so i know if i still the same old me. Or i have really moved on.
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
Sudden change
have you ever have a major shift in life? Like getting married and having a baby? Each seems a major milestone in life and really take time to adapt. For me, both came together. Not shot gun marriage but baby after marriage.
However its not that you are not happy, its your family don seems to be happy. My mom rather not to be known of and should be kept a secret. Her mom feels that house prior baby. no house how to have children? no place to hang clothes, no place to put cot etc. but then again, whose house is a 5 room exec mansion with balcony attached. How much do i have, if i earn really a lot, will still be the same old me? if i dont earn alot then how you expect me to get a house? i did try but always come with rejection. So what can i do? Wait... And now such remarks. Side note:"How singapore population boom with all the room rental only in the past?"
Previously I have a house in mind, a 30 yr old house. I loved it. and now that i lost it. i loved it even more. At tat time, all feedbacks came and since is your first purchase i believe feedback are impt. so i regret. Lesson Learned: who care who tell you. as long as its your liking, jus buy, who cares if you cant pay. Someone will be there to pay.
And now comes abt marriage. REMEMBER, don assume. Coz assumption is bad. but clarification is worse. So i assume. Things are fine for the past 7 years. now even the house pad lock has a problem. Remember don assume but don clarify. Great Risk in marriage. haha...The cupboard is a prob, the table is a prob, the bed is a prob. and no sun is a prob. So with all the problems i solve one by one, just to see more coming.
Lesson learned: Solving and giving in is never recognised. Once a boy with one queen bed and a huge cupboard which is always full is now a Man with a small corner with a a quarter of the cupboard. Once a boy who don need to clean anything is now a man who tries to clean everything.
However its not that you are not happy, its your family don seems to be happy. My mom rather not to be known of and should be kept a secret. Her mom feels that house prior baby. no house how to have children? no place to hang clothes, no place to put cot etc. but then again, whose house is a 5 room exec mansion with balcony attached. How much do i have, if i earn really a lot, will still be the same old me? if i dont earn alot then how you expect me to get a house? i did try but always come with rejection. So what can i do? Wait... And now such remarks. Side note:"How singapore population boom with all the room rental only in the past?"
Previously I have a house in mind, a 30 yr old house. I loved it. and now that i lost it. i loved it even more. At tat time, all feedbacks came and since is your first purchase i believe feedback are impt. so i regret. Lesson Learned: who care who tell you. as long as its your liking, jus buy, who cares if you cant pay. Someone will be there to pay.
And now comes abt marriage. REMEMBER, don assume. Coz assumption is bad. but clarification is worse. So i assume. Things are fine for the past 7 years. now even the house pad lock has a problem. Remember don assume but don clarify. Great Risk in marriage. haha...The cupboard is a prob, the table is a prob, the bed is a prob. and no sun is a prob. So with all the problems i solve one by one, just to see more coming.
Lesson learned: Solving and giving in is never recognised. Once a boy with one queen bed and a huge cupboard which is always full is now a Man with a small corner with a a quarter of the cupboard. Once a boy who don need to clean anything is now a man who tries to clean everything.
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
NASH Equlibrium - A beautiful Mind
John Nash, the famous game theorist on Nash equilibrium where everyone will worry about the outcome if they select this outcome and the other select the other. And the end result will select one outcome which they feel will gain the most benefit. As in the beautiful mind, there are 5 ladies and 4 guys, all 4 guys likes 1 lady but if all 4 goes for the 1 lady, none will get her, but if all 4 choose the 4 ladies even if that is not the best outcome, they will be happy for the night. Well, that is true but there are many hidden assumptions.
First, who is going to give in? Since there are 4 guys, all 4 are of equal caliber, why should i give in and even if one is the most handsome, why should the rest give in to him? This lead to unhappiness among the group.
second, will there be a sequential game? Where everyone knows that the most pretty one is the most sought of, and even they choose the second grade, as time goes will they all move on to the better one?
third, change in environment? Will more girls or guys being introduced to the scene, how will the payoff be? will they still get what they want or move on since the current payoff may be lower than moving off.
Forth, First mover advantage/ disadvantage? I choose the beauty or the second grade, just to see the changes going to happen with my friends choose the rest. will i defect and choose someone else? should i still move first or wait?
Game theory is still a theory, even with NASH equilibrium to understand how people make decisions, but in this complex and ever changing environment, things change and decisions still change. since there are far too many people (Perfect competition) to consider the scenario and select whats best for themselves and others, , The end result will still prisoner dilemma. Ultimate winner is still the one up there who set the game.
So much so for game theory.
First, who is going to give in? Since there are 4 guys, all 4 are of equal caliber, why should i give in and even if one is the most handsome, why should the rest give in to him? This lead to unhappiness among the group.
second, will there be a sequential game? Where everyone knows that the most pretty one is the most sought of, and even they choose the second grade, as time goes will they all move on to the better one?
third, change in environment? Will more girls or guys being introduced to the scene, how will the payoff be? will they still get what they want or move on since the current payoff may be lower than moving off.
Forth, First mover advantage/ disadvantage? I choose the beauty or the second grade, just to see the changes going to happen with my friends choose the rest. will i defect and choose someone else? should i still move first or wait?
Game theory is still a theory, even with NASH equilibrium to understand how people make decisions, but in this complex and ever changing environment, things change and decisions still change. since there are far too many people (Perfect competition) to consider the scenario and select whats best for themselves and others, , The end result will still prisoner dilemma. Ultimate winner is still the one up there who set the game.
So much so for game theory.
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