As you think through of the friends around you, who are close to you and who are not? and what are their personality? Are they similar to you? Somehow or rather, the statistics of how your friends are, is equivalent to who you are.
IF they are friendly, you are; if they are rich, you are. As we socialise with our friends, somehow, we will have some characteristics of our friends and personalities. And so we become part of them. If you start complaining of how your friend treat you, maybe thats how you treat your friends. Tit for Tat.
So is it really true that your friend personality and who they are equivalent to who you are?
Monday, January 25, 2010
Child education
teaching a child is never easy. they will turn up to be what you want them to be. its a matter of how you tame them and how you teach them to become your ideal person.
Similar to having a pet, u tame them and make them becoming what you want them to be. and we all know stray cats cant become tamed cats and tamed cats hard to become stray cats. Thats the similar idea in dealing with kids. As you want them to be good and teach them the best, yet you dont want them to be tamed. As you want them to stray yet wants them to be good. So you have to strike a balance in teaching them.
Over protection of children will lead to tamed child, unable to take the weather and social environment of deceits. And uder protection leads to strayed child, afraid that they go bad and create crimes. So what is your ideal child? how you want to teach them?
Similar to having a pet, u tame them and make them becoming what you want them to be. and we all know stray cats cant become tamed cats and tamed cats hard to become stray cats. Thats the similar idea in dealing with kids. As you want them to be good and teach them the best, yet you dont want them to be tamed. As you want them to stray yet wants them to be good. So you have to strike a balance in teaching them.
Over protection of children will lead to tamed child, unable to take the weather and social environment of deceits. And uder protection leads to strayed child, afraid that they go bad and create crimes. So what is your ideal child? how you want to teach them?
Saturday, January 16, 2010
Speak for yourself
Have you wonder when we start reprimanding and make remarks on others in doing something. can we do it ourselves? When we tell someone off, are we doing the same thing? It seems that many has the ability to comment and tell others whats right or wrong but when it comes to ourselves, can we do what we told others to do? Will we be able to console ourselves the way we console others?
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Different Faces in Life
As we grow and adapt to different roles in life, we start to wear different masks and show different attitude to different people. For example, when talking to friends, vulgarity and anything can be displayed while talking to bosses, we have to be humble and with respect. So these are so much different from the individual character.
Especially when there is an upgrade in status and upgrade in status. As we become adult, we are still our mummy kid, and so what face should you show? mummy boy or professional?
As we get married, are we the same old boyfriend and girlfriend feeling or become the more responsible husband and wife status? And in the transition of upgrade, will there be conflict?
to me any change in status should not have any change, as it a natural process. but to some there are many changes and expectation arise from it. I call this Adaptation to the norm. What is norm, the ideas and culture suggested by the ones around you.
And with the new adaptation to changes and expectation, will it be more stressful to others or easier for others. Especially true for people who think marriage will make one change. So which is true?
I getting to feel many changes around me, while i still stagnant as being an paid unemployed. I can feel the different changes around. Eg, friends start to work and no one with you. Married couples has no time for you, Your gf who soon may turn into wife to be becomes more domineering than ever, and wants things done their way. So theses are all changes as we become older and more different faces in life.
Well inaddition is the addition of faces. the face of professional, parents, child, colleagues, friends, client, bf, gf, all these we have different attitudes for every each of them and so. as we have moer faces, can we cope with our existing face? mummy boy and good bf?
I leave this for you to debate.
PS. the writing is a bit messed as i in a hurry, but wants to blog it before i forget.
Especially when there is an upgrade in status and upgrade in status. As we become adult, we are still our mummy kid, and so what face should you show? mummy boy or professional?
As we get married, are we the same old boyfriend and girlfriend feeling or become the more responsible husband and wife status? And in the transition of upgrade, will there be conflict?
to me any change in status should not have any change, as it a natural process. but to some there are many changes and expectation arise from it. I call this Adaptation to the norm. What is norm, the ideas and culture suggested by the ones around you.
And with the new adaptation to changes and expectation, will it be more stressful to others or easier for others. Especially true for people who think marriage will make one change. So which is true?
I getting to feel many changes around me, while i still stagnant as being an paid unemployed. I can feel the different changes around. Eg, friends start to work and no one with you. Married couples has no time for you, Your gf who soon may turn into wife to be becomes more domineering than ever, and wants things done their way. So theses are all changes as we become older and more different faces in life.
Well inaddition is the addition of faces. the face of professional, parents, child, colleagues, friends, client, bf, gf, all these we have different attitudes for every each of them and so. as we have moer faces, can we cope with our existing face? mummy boy and good bf?
I leave this for you to debate.
PS. the writing is a bit messed as i in a hurry, but wants to blog it before i forget.
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
Right or Wrong?
Many times, we feel that some one in this event is not correct, should not do so. etc.. but are we right or wrong.. So whats right or wrong? Our range of perception sees things that we feel right or wrong, and when we feel unjust we tell the person. But have you thought that the person is doing the right thing that he think he is right? and maybe we are actually wrong? so whats right or wrong?
My definition is the next best alternative. Thats all i say.
My definition is the next best alternative. Thats all i say.
Readers
For those who reads my blog, if you have any comments feel free to tell me. And even if you have no comments, do let me know you reading my blog. Actually i don know who reads my blog except for one, but if you are reading and have some views do let me know. Coz this is really not just for someone out there but everyone out there. i know its wierd to post this but, i do like to know how many supporters there are.
Tata~ take care
Tata~ take care
thoughts of relationship
Watching the hongkong drama "shi nai bing tuan" about husbands looking for other affairs. Makes me think of something which may seems bad but something that girls should think about. Why do husbands look for other girls? is it because they are simply unfaithful or their love have really changed? why such things happens? and its so common since out of 10 couples who got married, 3 got divorced. And what is marriage to us nowadays?
Well, i always have this analogy, girls hate this but i would still like to say, when your shoes. still able to wear, but because it looks abit old, will you still wear it? will you feel that it no longer fits you and wants a change? Likewise, for guys, when your girl turns fat and plump, even with repeated hinting and warnings, they still turn plump, will you be tempted to change girlfriends or more tempted by the beauties that attracts all mankind?
so why i say so, it takes 2 hands to clap, even if we have grown old, we still need to have some value. Signing the paper is something, but fulfiling the contract is another. Being a wife or husband not only cares and love for each other, but also themselves. If you lose your personal self image and self consciousness, people will lose faith in you, including your husband.
In addition from my parents, love is no longer blind, if you really care for someone and do something for someone, make sure you let the someone knows. cause perceived satisfaction level by the receiver is often different from the perceived satisfaction perceived by the provider. meaning if you dont tell him or her, she will not know. and when she do not know and she continues to show more care and satisfaction, there is a disequilibrium, meaning she or he starts to feel unjust about the relationship and starts complaining. As he thinks he put in more effort than the other and so snowballs and misunderstandings and soon castrophe. This i got from my parents. One thing power about them is they can snow ball for decades yet have not signed the divorce papers, may be they are too poor or stingy to engage lawyers to do so. I guess.
Well, i always have this analogy, girls hate this but i would still like to say, when your shoes. still able to wear, but because it looks abit old, will you still wear it? will you feel that it no longer fits you and wants a change? Likewise, for guys, when your girl turns fat and plump, even with repeated hinting and warnings, they still turn plump, will you be tempted to change girlfriends or more tempted by the beauties that attracts all mankind?
so why i say so, it takes 2 hands to clap, even if we have grown old, we still need to have some value. Signing the paper is something, but fulfiling the contract is another. Being a wife or husband not only cares and love for each other, but also themselves. If you lose your personal self image and self consciousness, people will lose faith in you, including your husband.
In addition from my parents, love is no longer blind, if you really care for someone and do something for someone, make sure you let the someone knows. cause perceived satisfaction level by the receiver is often different from the perceived satisfaction perceived by the provider. meaning if you dont tell him or her, she will not know. and when she do not know and she continues to show more care and satisfaction, there is a disequilibrium, meaning she or he starts to feel unjust about the relationship and starts complaining. As he thinks he put in more effort than the other and so snowballs and misunderstandings and soon castrophe. This i got from my parents. One thing power about them is they can snow ball for decades yet have not signed the divorce papers, may be they are too poor or stingy to engage lawyers to do so. I guess.
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