thoughts of relationship

Watching the hongkong drama "shi nai bing tuan" about husbands looking for other affairs. Makes me think of something which may seems bad but something that girls should think about. Why do husbands look for other girls? is it because they are simply unfaithful or their love have really changed? why such things happens? and its so common since out of 10 couples who got married, 3 got divorced. And what is marriage to us nowadays?

Well, i always have this analogy, girls hate this but i would still like to say, when your shoes. still able to wear, but because it looks abit old, will you still wear it? will you feel that it no longer fits you and wants a change? Likewise, for guys, when your girl turns fat and plump, even with repeated hinting and warnings, they still turn plump, will you be tempted to change girlfriends or more tempted by the beauties that attracts all mankind?

so why i say so, it takes 2 hands to clap, even if we have grown old, we still need to have some value. Signing the paper is something, but fulfiling the contract is another. Being a wife or husband not only cares and love for each other, but also themselves. If you lose your personal self image and self consciousness, people will lose faith in you, including your husband.

In addition from my parents, love is no longer blind, if you really care for someone and do something for someone, make sure you let the someone knows. cause perceived satisfaction level by the receiver is often different from the perceived satisfaction perceived by the provider. meaning if you dont tell him or her, she will not know. and when she do not know and she continues to show more care and satisfaction, there is a disequilibrium, meaning she or he starts to feel unjust about the relationship and starts complaining. As he thinks he put in more effort than the other and so snowballs and misunderstandings and soon castrophe. This i got from my parents. One thing power about them is they can snow ball for decades yet have not signed the divorce papers, may be they are too poor or stingy to engage lawyers to do so. I guess.