Emotions to goal setting

Do you have goals? do you know what you wan to accomplish? do you like what you want to do? Do you have expectations for yourself or your other half?

Goal setting books say we have to set goals and work towards them. Goals help us to get a direction and we will be able to locate the direction in life. but is the goal you really want? When you set goal towards something, is it what you really want? will you lose out something when you are trying to achieve it? Will there be any other opportunity cost like friends, relationships, love, family or money when you achieve your goal?

When you set your goal and unable to achieve it, how you feel? your emotions? sad? anxiety? frustrated? irritated? upset? happy? sense of satisfaction? finally? whats next? so is goal setting helpful? Creating so many emotional cues where some people don understand why i feel like that and feels i simply naive. BUT I REALLY COMMITTED TO THE GOAL, well, so lets contrast.. as we get more wealthier, lifestyle gets better, our goals changes.. we constantly set higher goals for us to go. and One day, when we look back we are actually indifferent. though we are better off, but we lose out on others. So thats life... ALWAYS WORK AROUND WITH LIMITED RESOURCES.

Is everything you do is predetermined?

I believe everyone especially chinese will have religion. Gods are all around. Gods determine what you do and you should have. So you go to temples, go to churches to seek help and ask for increment of the things you have. So is there really god? Is everything you do is predetermined?

If it really is, why would one want to work hard? if its not why some people simply dont need to do anything and money keep coming in? Why are we always push the responsibility to gods and believe they can help us? who are they? Someone more superior than us? someone who lives longer or just something imaginery? Will ants treat us like gods? we provide them food but we crush them because we feel like? do they worship us like gods too, since we are far superior, bigger, and determine their life.

Sometimes really feel tired when one work so hard and so unfruitful yet someone, who don bother, live each other day in luxury. WHAT IS LIFE? so hard to determine, so fragile yet strong. so long lived yet short lived. so bitter yet sweet. so much hardship yet fruitful. So what are we? what is life?

Understanding...

I thougth of something lately. its about relationships. What makes human special? Knowledge? intelligence? or is it understanding? Many times, people feel that they understand others or understand whats happen but is it really the case? is what you think is right is right? is the understanding enough or are there other aspects or angles to look at things?

As our Media evolves from telling all viewers what happening to showing bits and bits and allow views to imagine and understand, will it be the same in our real life scenarios? Will people understand and feel and accept the things that others have done for him? Will he feel gratitude and acknowledge their efforts? Or do they really understand?

One of my students is angry about his father for confiscating his phone and not allowing him to chat with his girlfriend. and he is just 14. does he understand what he is doing is right or wrong? Does he knows what his father has actually trying to do? does his father understand if what he did is right?

My friend who just started school start to become stressed and no longer talk cock on msn. Naturally we feel wierd, does he understand? or its just that we dont understand?

So does understanding need to constantly convey to all parties or can be felt? It sometimes seems so tiring to get people to understand you Correctly. and so with our intellectual, will it be easier for us to converse such understanding or we are still far away from understanding people? Maybe its just me....

Last but not least, thanks my god father for this. It really helps me. Human as much as one need to be independent, we are still a herd, not an individual. we are part of something and that something makes this world. and so thats how the world evolves.

Movie Coco Chanel

Just watched Coco Chanel... Seems that all successful people need help from someone. "GUI REN", without Boy, Coco will not be able to survive in this cruel world and without him, she will not be able to get the rich to visit the boutique. So does that still apply to the current world? Do you think that the current riches use some sort of network to increase their wealth? Do you think the Lee family can dominate the nation's top companies and Governance is pure coincidence?

Well, so how unfair and how unfortunate one can be. And somehow, no matter how hard you work, how hard you strive, you are still trapped. Well, though there are exceptions, Coco Chanel is one of them. Enjoy the movie, good to watch, romantic and ... (for you to find out).

Sasori- The last laugh

Have you ever wonder if you have really won? In game theory, we have last game and repeated games. But in real life, do we have last game? will the last game be the one dealing with him or her or will it be the time when we are a step away from graveyard?

As we all try to think of being a winner, we are always in a struggle to outwin each other, as a zero sun game, everyone will either be happy or upset with the outcome and the cycle continues as we try to win again.

As we think we have won, have we really won. as we strike toto, have you thought that we have lost many games and many games to be lost ahead? In playing head or tails, in statistics, when we play long enough, no one wins as its a 50 -50 outcome (Law of large numbers).

So who is the winner? Will there be a ultimate Winner? As we win now, will we lose later? We gain monetary gains, we lose our health.. so What do you think?

Have A dream?

Have you ever wonder, everytime when people ask you what you dream of having? what you wish to have? you will tell him or her something that you will want to buy. but after many many years, you still have not fulfilled your dream and just bought something else that serves the same purpose. Many times when people have a dream, they acknowledge that it just a dream. and therefore, it will never happens.

I dreamed of a Mazda RX 8, i bought a Mazda 3.

I dreamed of a 5 room resale flat, i bidded for a punggol 4 room BTO flat.

It simply seems wierd when it come to purchasing, we never consider the dream item to buy but just the next item that serves the same purpose. WHY? Are we simply POOR? or A DREAM is always a DREAM?

Contrast of Life

Today is my working day, dealing with children and demands of parents. As i was working, i have a thought when i see this mom coming to fetch her child at the pool. This let me think, is that what life is all about? Up bringing your offsprings and withered off? as the cycle continues, that is what eternity life is all about?

Then again, for a child to grow to independence will be an average fo 20 years. In contrast, is it a lot? Compare with a flying ant with a lifespan of 1 day(24hours). It seems that they have accomplished more than we do. Growing up, giving birth and feeding the young and dying off within 24hours. Dont you think it is amazing of this mother nature. How organism at work and how life creates life no matter how long or short your life is?

As we complains that we have lack of time in the pursuit of material lifestyle, it provides a stark constrast on how the world of other species is doing. So whats life again? What is time? And what is your mindset?